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Discovering the Courage Within
The Inborn Courage in You
Your Capacity for Adversity
Courage As a Necessity
Obstacles to Becoming Braver
- Fear of change—Learning how to be less controlled by your fears is one key to becoming more courageous.
- Either-or thinking—You may think of yourself as a wimp and others as courageous, but there has to be a middle ground. You can live in a comfort zone, but you have to be willing to be courageous when it counts.
- Fear of failure—Failure is an important part of success, and being courageous involves being willing to fail at times.
- Lack of faith—Identify your self-doubt so that you can act more courageously.
- Personal fears—These are fears such as fear of taking responsibility for your life, fear of self-discovery, fear of losing control, fear of moving forward, and fear of making the wrong decision. Know that you are bigger than your fears. Follow your instincts, and if doubts emerge, shove them aside.
Finding Courage in Times of Need
- Recall previous times when you acted courageously. Did you move as a child and have to make new friends? Did you go away to college? Focus on times when you acted courageously to help build up your courage.
- Shift your focus. Do not worry about failing or disappointing other people. Worry instead about failing yourself.
- Eliminate the words wish, hope and maybe from your vocabulary. These words fill you with doubt, fear or hesitation.
- Do your homework. If appropriate, know the obstacles you might encounter. Talk with other people who were once in your shoes. But remember that no matter how much you analyze the situation, you will still have unknown answers.
- Surround yourself with courageous people. There will always be people who say never. Find people who support and believe in you.
- Imagine what life will be like when your challenge has passed.Courage can come from seeing past adversity and knowing that things will get better.
- Give it your all but do not expect perfection. Do not give only 50%; then you can say later that you did not succeed because you were not trying that hard. To find courage, you must be willing to give 100%.
- After you have acted with courage, assess your response. Did acting with courage move you forward? If not, figure out how you would behave differently next time. If it did, then bottle that courage, reward yourself, and always remember this time when you acted with courage in spite of your fears.
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- Reviewer: Michael Woods, MD
- Review Date: 09/2013
- Update Date: 09/29/2013