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Child Sexual Abuse: Know the Warning Signs
What Is Child Sexual Abuse?
- Fondling a child’s genitals, breasts, or anus for sexual pleasure or other unnecessary reason
- Playing sexual games or making a child touch someone else’s genitals
- Inserting objects or body parts (fingers, tongue, or penis) inside the vulva, vagina, mouth, or anus of a child, for sexual pleasure or other unnecessary reason
- Exposing genitals to a child
- Showing pornography to a child
- Making sexual remarks to a child
- Having a child pose, undress, or perform in a sexual fashion (including for photographs)
- Peeping into bedrooms and bathrooms
Signs and Symptoms of Child Sexual Abuse
- Underwear that is torn, stained, or bloody
- Difficulty walking or sitting
- Redness, pain, bleeding, or bruising in the external genital area, vagina, or anal area
- Unusual discharge from the vagina or anus
- Frequent, unexplained urinary infections or sore throats
- Sexually transmitted infections
- Clinical depression and thoughts of suicide
- Lack of trust
- Change in response to adults or older children (although males account for most cases of abuse, don’t rule out the possibility of female abusers)
- New fears or hysteria
- Low self-esteem
Depression with physical complaints such as:
- Headache, stomachache, or chest pain
- Loss of appetite
- Sleep problems
- Bed-wetting, thumb sucking, or loss of bowel control
- Fear of undressing, or wearing extra layers of clothing
- Fear of going to the bathroom, refusal to have a bowel movement, or constipation
- Difficulty making friends
- Getting to school early and staying late, to avoid being at home
- Marked fear of a person (including parents) or certain places
- Promiscuity, seductive behavior, or age inappropriate interest in sexual matters
- Persistent, inappropriate sex play with peers or toys, or excessive masturbation
- Truancy or dropping school performance
- Running away from home
- Abusing alcohol or drugs
When You Suspect Sexual Abuse
- Stay calm. If you show anger or disgust, the child might take it personally. Don’t panic or overreact. This is a difficult experience and the child needs help and support.
- Take what the child says seriously.
- Listen carefully and compassionately to the child and answer questions honestly.
- Be positive. Child abuse is never the child’s fault. Reassure the child they are not to blame. Tell the child that you are proud of them for speaking up. Give lots of love, comfort, and reassurance.
- Respect the child’s privacy. Don’t pressure the child to talk about the abuse. The child will talk about it at their own pace. Don’t discuss the abuse in front of people who don’t need to know about it.
- Report the abuse to the local authorities as soon as possible. They can help keep the child safe and provide assistance and resources.
- Take the child for a medical exam in case there might be physical injury, damage, or disease that has resulted from the abuse. An exam may also provide important evidence.
- Get help from a variety of sources: the child’s pediatrician, a counselor, a police officer, a child protective service worker, or a teacher.
- Do not prevent the child from talking about the abuse.
- Do not confront the offender. Keep the child away from the suspected person. Notify the authorities and let them handle the legal process.
How to Help Prevent Sexual Abuse
- Tell children, “If someone tries to touch your body and do things that make you feel funny, say NO to that person and tell me right away."
- Teach children that respect does not mean blind obedience to adults and to authority.
- Encourage professional prevention programs in the local school.
- Know the people who spend time around your child, especially caregivers.
- Communicate frequently and openly with your child in a non-judgmental way.
- Reviewer: Michael Woods, MD
- Review Date: 06/2016
- Update Date: 06/08/2016